The Switchy Witch

submission as a gift….or not.

November 17th, 2012

I call horse shit. First off..let’s just look at the definition of “gift” this is taken directly from dictionary.com
gift
noun
1.
something given  voluntarily without payment in return, as to show favor toward someone, honor an occasion, or make a gesture of assistance; present.
2.
the act of giving.
3.
something bestowed or acquired without any particular effort by the recipient or without its being earned: Those extra points he got in the game were a total gift.
4.
a special ability or capacity; natural endowment; talent: the gift of saying the right thing at the right time.

Ok..look at number 1 people. When you give someone a “gift” you do it not expecting ANYTHING in return. This means.. if I “give” you my submission that means I don’t or shouldn’t expect a single thing from you in return. HELL NO. This is NOT how ANY relationship I will EVER be in should EVER work. My submission is NOT a gift to be given away with no expectation of any return on it. The man or woman for that matter who I allow to have authority over me..who I give the the right to be dominant over me..sure as hell better be fully prepared to give back to me. They should be fully prepared to accept the authority and all of the responsibility that goes with it. They should fully expect that the relationship we are entering into is going to be a two way street with a lot of give and take on BOTH sides. Yep. It is gonna take work people. Gifts..they don’t take work. Oh..and if you’re in the giving mood…why not just “give it away” and see just how well taken care of you are. See how well fed your submission is. See how well fed you are as a person mentally, emotionally and physically. See how satisfied you are with getting nothing in return.

Secondly, lets look at number 3. Yea you see where it says **something bestowed or acquired without any particular effort by the recipient or without its being earned:** are you SURE your submission is a “gift” that is so easily taken? That it’s not something that should be “earned” by the person you are entering into (hopefully) a life long commitment with? Are you willing to just give your submission to any top, dick or harry that happens along and say “hey, I’m dominant, give me your submission because I have done absolutely nothing to prove to you that I am DESERVING of what you have to offer”

Yes, people, I agree. Your submission is a wonderful, beautiful, powerful thing. Why would you gift it away? Yes, I totally agree, the man or woman who wants to be your dominant should absolutely be deserving of your submission. So, why would you gift it away?

It leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Also, it makes me rather annoyed to think that if submission is this “ooh ahh” thing that people should treat with such reverence and wonder…what the hell is dominance? (this is where my switchiness comes into play) I absolutely will not just gift you my dominance. As a submissive..you need to earn the right of it just as much as I need to earn the right of your submission. You need to earn the right for me to WANT to have authority over you. My dominance is just as wonderful, as beautiful, as powerful as your submission. As a dominant I understand and I accept the FULL responsibility of being the person with the authority. Do you think that I will just gift it away to someone who will not earn it…will not respect it…will not accept it wholeheartedly???

We are people making the moves of an intricate dance. We are moving around each other, sizing each other up, putting out feelers to see if we are right for each other..to see if one of us deserves to have authority over the other. If we are smart people we will look..we will learn..we will research…but we will not ‘gift’ away the part of us that makes us who we are in this lifestyle.

My submission is NOT a gift. My dominance is NOT a gift.

The Switchy Witch

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