October 17th, 2011
Dominant, submissive, top, bottom, where do we fit? There are so many labels and so many combinations for people in this lifestyle. Where do I fit? It took me a very long time to determine where I fit, what label I should attach to myself. I am a switch. I proudly wear the tag and I truly feel like it describes me down to the letter. I am dominant. I am submissive. I can top and I can bottom. Am I jack of all trades? Maybe. Do I fit into each category and perform to the best of my ability? Absolutely.
Like most people, I think, I very much dealt in absolutes when I started exploring BDSM. When I first started this journey, I was bound and determined that I was a submissive. There was not a dominant bone in my body (HA!). My friends, my husband at the time, hell anybody I met laughed in my face on a pretty regular basis when I claimed my submission. There was a lot of “You’re deluding yourself..there’s not a submissive bone in your body.” It used to make me angry that people just wouldn’t believe me. I knew there was. There was a whole side of me that most people in my every day life never got to see. This untapped part of me that was screaming to come out. So, I was reading everything I could get my hands on, talking to people on the internet, learning. It was a long time before I heard the term switch. It was an even longer time before I admitted that this is where I fit.
Now of course, I’m firmly entrenched. I have contemplated this idea for a long while. The idea of bringing information, sharing, helping other’s who see themselves as switches. There really is not a lot of information to be found. I see people ask questions. I see people who are so dead set against the possibility of a switch. So, maybe I can educate. It is my biggest hope that I can give a well rounded view on this topic and many others that relate to it!
So..
The Switchy Witch is in!
Thank you for your information! I really enjoyed it.
I suggest adding a “google+” button for the blog!